Use latest protoreflect to fix some bugs (#453)

* update to latest jhump/protoreflect

* be lenient when possible if server cannot furnish all dependencies

* move linting back to go 1.21 instead of latest go 1.22

* make staticcheck happy

cmd/grpcurl/grpcurl.go

@@ -600,6 +600,7 @@ func main() {
 		refCtx := metadata.NewOutgoingContext(ctx, md)
 		cc = dial()
 		refClient = grpcreflect.NewClientAuto(refCtx, cc)
+		refClient.AllowMissingFileDescriptors()
 		reflSource := grpcurl.DescriptorSourceFromServer(ctx, refClient)
 		if fileSource != nil {
 			descSource = compositeSource{reflSource, fileSource}